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Sex-L LISTSERV Discussion Group
The Sex-L Discussion group is a discussion group for issues related to relationships and sexuality. We consider ourselves to be a community with shared values that revolve around treating each other with civility, tolerance, and respect. You should read the Sex-L Discussion Group List Norms PRIOR to joining our community and abide by them when you make a post to the list. Sex-L is a high traffic discussion list--expect to receive up to 150 mail message per day from the list.
The Sex-L discussion list involves discussions containing sexually explicit content. If you are a sexual minor (as defined by your community) you should obtain permission from your parents/guardian/etc prior to reading or participating in the discussions. By remaining subscribed to the list you indicate that you have obtained said permission from your parents/guradians/etc. If you are under the legal age, you should make every effort to discuss sexual issues with your parents/guardians/family/etc.
The views expressed on this discussion list are those of each individual poster and do not reflect the views of Texas A&M University or of the list owner.
Frequently asked questions:
What kinds of things should I expect to find discussed on Sex-L?
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What is off limits for discussion?
As long as the post conforms to the
underlying principles of
What's off-limits on Sex-L:
See the Communication section and the Net Relationships section of our Love and Relationships page for more info on communicating. Also, see the Sex-L Discussion Group List Norms.
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How to subscribe to the Sex-L discussion group.
Read the Sex-L Discussion Group List Norms, then send mail to: LISTSERV@LISTSERV.TAMU.EDU
In the body of your mail message type only the command:
SUBSCRIBE SEX-L YourFirstName YourLastName
Type Subscribe Sex-L in the subject line.
You will then receive mail from the listserv asking you to confirm your subscription. Follow the instructions contained in that e-mail to confirm your subscription to the list.
Note that you can use the subscribe command to change the name under which you are subscribed. Using your given name is not required, however if you choose to use a nickname, the listserv expects to see two words in the subscription command. and you need to remember that we are people here and this is not a game or fantasy. You are talking to real people and everyone here is responsible for their actions. You should read the messages you receive from listmembers for a while to get a feel for how things are done here.
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How to send a message to everyone subscribed to the list
You send mail to the list address and that mail is forwarded automatically to the list editors who will release your mail to the list if it's consistant with list guidelines. If the list editor deems that your message is not consistant with the list guidelines, they will provide their rationnale and either reject your message or ask you to edit and resubmit your message. After you have demonstrated that you can keep your posts consistant with list guidelines the editor will set your options to where you will be able to send mail directly to the list. It is the member's responsibility to help keep Sex-L a cool place to be. If you consistently violate the list norms (contribute to flaming, etc), you will no longer be allowed to participate in the discussions.
If you want to send a message to everyone who is subscribed to Sex-L send mail to: Sex-L@listserv.tamu.edu
Make sure that the subject line reflects the content of your message.
You must be a member to send mail to the list.
Remember to:
Note that if you see a message from the list that you would like to
reply to, the reply function in your e-mail software will by default
send your reply only to the originator of the message, not to
the everyone who is a member. We chose to set it up this way to make
people have to decide whether the message should go to the original
sender of the message or to the entire group.
There are several ways to respond to a message you get from the list:
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How do I find out what my current list settings are?
Send mail to: LISTSERV@LISTSERV.TAMU.EDU
In the body of the mail message type only the command:
QUERY SEX-L
Type QUERY SEX-L in the subject line.
The LISTSERV will send you mail telling you if your command worked and listing your current settings:
Subscription options for your name <yourID@your.node>, list SEX-L:
DIGEST You receive list digests, rather than individual postings
SUBJECTHDR Full (normal) mail headers with list name in message
subject
REPRO You receive a copy of your own postings
CONCEAL Your subscription is concealed from non-privileged users;
note that posting to the list will reveal your presence
ACK Short e-mail acknowledgement of successfully processed
postings
Subscription date: 10 Apr 1997
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How to get messages from the list in one to three daily digests instead of individual mail messages
Send mail to: LISTSERV@LISTSERV.TAMU.EDU
In the body of the mail message type only the command:
SET SEX-L DIGEST
Type SET SEX-L DIGEST in the subject line.
The LISTSERV will send you mail telling you if you digest command worked. You will now get from 1 to 4 digests per day. Each digest begins with an index of the posts it contains and then includes the messages for that time period.
If your mail program is having trouble displaying your digest,
Send mail to: LISTSERV@LISTSERV.TAMU.EDU
In the body of the mail message type only the command:
SET SEX-L NOMIME
Type SET SEX-L NOMIME in the subject line.
and that should fix the problem.
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How to get each message from the list as a separate mail message:
Send mail to: LISTSERV@LISTSERV.TAMU.EDU
In the body of the mail message type only the command:
SET SEX-L MAIL
Type SET SEX-L MAIL in the subject line.
The LISTSERV will send you mail telling you if you mail command worked.
To start receiving individual messages again if you are
currently getting the list in digest format,
send mail to the listserv address above containing the
following command:
SET SEX-L NODIGEST
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How to temporarily stop receiving mail from the list:
Send mail to: LISTSERV@LISTSERV.TAMU.EDU
In the body of the mail message type only the command:
SET SEX-L NOMAIL
Type SET SEX-L NOMAIL in the subject line.
TO: LISTSERV@LISTSERV.TAMU.EDU
The LISTSERV will send you mail telling you if your command worked.
You can then use the mail command to begin receiving messages from the list.
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How to conceal your name in the subscriber's list:
Send mail to: LISTSERV@LISTSERV.TAMU.EDU
In the body of the mail message type only the command:
SET SEX-L CONCEAL
Type SET SEX-L CONCEAL in the subject line.
The LISTSERV will send you mail telling you if your command worked.
Note that the conceal option keeps people from being able to find your address/name if they send a review Sex-L command to the LISTSERV to get the subscriber's list. It does not keep your name from showing up in the message header when you send a message to the discussion list. If you don't want your real name to appear on your posts to the list, you'll need to use the subscribe command to change the name that you're subscribed under and I think you will need to check your e-mail software settings and change it there as well.
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How to find out who is subscribed to Sex-L:
Note that it is not currently possible to retrieve a list of subscribers, althought the LISTSERV will send you summary statistics for the list.
Send mail to: LISTSERV@LISTSERV.TAMU.EDU
In the body of the mail message type only the command:
REVIEW SEX-L NOHEADER
Type REVIEW SEX-L in the subject line.
The LISTSERV will send you mail containing the number of people who are currently subscribed.
Below are some useful variants that give the total number of subscribers and:
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How to find previous posts to Sex-L:
Use the INFO and GET FILE commands
Use the database search commands
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How to leave the list:
Send mail to: LISTSERV@LISTSERV.TAMU.EDU
In the body of the mail message type only the command:
UNSUBSCRIBE SEX-L
Type UNSUBSCRIBE SEX-L in the subject line.
Note that you will receive a message back from the LISTSERV telling you whether your unsub command worked or not. Also, since messages take different routes thru the net, they will continue to filter in for a while after you unsub. Also note that the command is spelled unSUBscribe, not unscribe.
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How to contact the list owners:
Send mail containing your message to: sex-l-request@listserv.tamu.edu
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How YOU can help keep Sex-L a cool place to be
Understand what is expected here and behave accordingly. Treat others as you would like to be treated--with civility, tolerance and respect.
There will be newbies showing up here all the time. Some aren't familiar with listserv discussion groups. They may do things that are annoying like posting multiple one liners, quoting entire posts, etc. When you see the beginnings of this send *private* e-mail to *them* as soon as possible after you notice what's going on. Explain what the problem is and include a copy of the norms file... treat them like you would like to be treated if you had done something clueless and didn't know it.
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How come I'm not getting mail from the list?
How come I'm suddenly getting the list in digest format?
If your mailbox gets full (or if your account is for other reasons not able to receive mail), we get an error message for every post that can't be delivered to your account. So when mail starts bouncing from your account, you will either be set to digest format or removed from the list (we have the listserv set up to automatically unsubscribe you at 50 bounced messages or having mail bounces for 2 consecutive days). Also, to cut down on the number of error messages we have to deal with, every month the listserv sends out a message asking you to confirm that you want to stay subscribed. If you fail to reply to that message, the LISTSERV will automatically remove you from the list and you'll need to subscribe again.
To check and see if you are still subscribed, send mail to: LISTSERV@LISTSERV.TAMU.EDU
In the body of the mail message type only the command:
QUERY SEX-L
Type QUERY SEX-L in the subject line.
and the LISTSERV will send you e-mail. This e-mail with either tell you that you are not subscribed to the list, or it will list your current settings for the list. If you are not subscribed, you will need to join the list again. If you are subscribed, but set to digest or nomail mode, then you will need to tell the LISTSERV to start sending individual messages again. See How to find previous posts to Sex-L if you need to catch up on the posts you missed.
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How come I'm getting an error message that says that my mail couldn't
be delivered to someone and what does that mean
When you send a message to Sex-L@listserv.tamu.edu it goes from you to the listserv and is distributed to everyone who us subscribed to the list. If a subscriber's mailbox is full or if there are other problems that keep mail from being delivered to that person, the listserv sends the originator of the message an e-mail to let them know that the message did not get delivered to that person and why (those error messages are generally difficult to figure out, however if you look about 3 screens down in the message it gives you the username@nodename.host for the person and the reason it couldn't be delivered). Note that if you did receive a copy of your message back from the listserv, it did make it to everyone who is subscribed except for those people who's account generated the error message. Just consider it a minor inconvenience and delete the error message.
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